"The day I heard he was getting married, I went out and bought an Entenmman's cake for the first time in 20 years," divorcee Laura Cohen said.
Laura Cohen is talking about life after 19 years of marriage.
"I think the first thing is, oh no, I don't have to go out with a stranger again do I?" she said.
For her, emotional eating and dating were two unpleasant experiences post-divorce.
But with the help of a new online service called FirstWivesWorld, she found others in the same situation.
Not just bloggers, but experts who know the ropes.
"It's the legal stuff, sort of the hand holding - we've been through this before and we'll show you how to make it easier," Cohen said.
One such expert is fitness trainer Kathy Kaehler, who feels exercise is one of the most important things to do when going through divorce.
"You've got new meetings with attorneys, you've got to sign paperwork, you've got to go through financial," Kaehler said. "So having yourself be very fit and in control of your life, I think helps things stay in a much more orderly fashion."
In fact, staying active has been shown to reduce stress, lower blood pressure and helps keep weight in check; which in turn lowers the risk of heart disease, diabetes, and certain cancers.
It's no surprise women not getting divorce still need to exercise and reduce stress. Kaehler says much of what is on this program can help a multitude of women
"There's a lot of great places to seek advice. Legal. Psychological. Support from other women who are going through it," she said.
"I like to read what other people are going through," Cohen said.
And along with the blogs, Cohen says it keeps her on track.
"I'm really big on the checklists and the bullet points and things you can sort of scan down and say, oh I'm going to make a note of that one."
Which in turn can be empowering.
"You're staying more in control of yourself. You're keeping the 'you' part of you. I think that keeps you more alive and more focused," said Kaehler.